"Anyone who imagines that bliss is normal is going to waste a lot of
time running around shouting that he's been robbed. The fact is that
most putts don't drop, most beef is tough, most children grow up to be
just people, most successful marriages require a high degree of mutual
toleration, most jobs are often more dull than otherwise. The trick is
to thank the Lord for letting you have the ride."
-Gordon B. Hinckley
Saturday, October 24, 2015
Wednesday, October 21, 2015
Attitude is Everything
Charles R. Swindoll said, “attitude is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, the education, the money, than circumstances, than failure, than successes, than what other people think or say or do.
It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company… a church… a home… We cannot change our past… we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it. And so it is with you… we are in charge of our attitudes.”
A
happy person is not a person in a certain set of circumstances, but rather a
person with a certain set of attitudes. ~Hugh Downs
Tuesday, October 20, 2015
Saturday, October 17, 2015
Worry
I Worried
by Mary Oliver
I worried a lot. Will the garden grow, will the rivers
flow in the right direction, will the earth turn
as it was taught, and if not how shall
I correct it?
Was I right, was I wrong, will I be forgiven,
can I do better?
Will I ever be able to sing, even the sparrows
can do it and I am, well,
hopeless.
Is my eyesight fading or am I just imagining it,
am I going to get rheumatism,
lockjaw, dementia?
Finally I saw that worrying had come to nothing.
And gave it up. And took my old body
and went out into the morning,
and sang.
“Worrying won’t stop the bad stuff from happening. It just stops you from enjoying the good.” The irony is that by worrying about what might happen, we’re not only missing the good in our life, but we are draining ourselves of the energy and strength we’d need if something did happen. What will be will be. We do our best to be safe and healthy, and that is the extent of our control. So stop. Rewire. Put a new chip in. Whatever it takes to blow out the old programming!
“Worrying won’t stop the bad stuff from happening. It just stops you from enjoying the good.” The irony is that by worrying about what might happen, we’re not only missing the good in our life, but we are draining ourselves of the energy and strength we’d need if something did happen. What will be will be. We do our best to be safe and healthy, and that is the extent of our control. So stop. Rewire. Put a new chip in. Whatever it takes to blow out the old programming!
Friday, October 16, 2015
Long, but worth the read.
My
7-Step Program for Making Positive Thinking Effective
Being happy and living a positive life is not about repeating positive affirmations all day every day and hoping they will somehow transform your life in a miraculous way. There’s more to it than that.
What I will share with you below are 7 steps that are meant to make positive thinking effective and transform your life in a really beautiful and empowering way.
1. Take ownership. Whenever we get angry or irritated because of something people say or do to us it is so because we project our own shadows and our own darkness on to them.
Next time something negative happens and next time you come in contact with somebody you don’t quite like or maybe hate, ask yourself these questions: What is it about this person, situation that is triggering me? What is it about them that I haven’t yet accepted in me? Do I have some hidden open wounds that they touched?
“Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.” ~ Carl Jung
2. Let go of your resistance. If you feel the presence of anger in your life, let it be there, allow yourself to feel its presence but don’t allow it to define you, don’t allow you to become you!
Say to yourself: There is anger, frustration, negativity, etc. in me and I allow it to be there without making it my own. There is anger in me but I am not the anger, I am the observer of this anger.
“Nonresistance is the key to the greatest power in the universe.” ~Eckhart Tolle
3. Acceptance with grace all that you face, Accept yourself for who you are and for who you are not. Accept yourself both in the presence of positivity, progress and happiness and their absence. Accept the idea that what you dislike the most in others might be something hidden deep down within yourself, in your unconscious, something you haven’t accepted in yourself.
“The difference between my darkness and your darkness is that I can look at my own badness in the face and accept its existence while you are busy covering your mirror with a white linen sheet.” ~ C. JoyBell
4. Forgive and Let Go. Forgive yourself for always believing that the enemy was outside yourself and never within you. Forgive yourself for projecting your own shadows on to the world and making it look cold, scary and frightening.
“We have met the enemy and he is us.” ~ Pogo
5. Embrace love and compassion. We have to learn to love and accept not only the good, bright side of us but also our dark side. Only by loving and accepting our own darkness without judging and oppressing it, we will help heal it.
“Darkness cannot drive out darkness: only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate: only love can do that.” ~ Martin Luther King Jr.
6. Visualization to materialize. Visualization is such a powerful tool that you can use to visualize the person you want to become, the life you want to live and the impact you want to have in the world.
“The power of imagination is incredible. Often we see athletes achieving unbelievable results and wonder how they did it. One of the tools they use is visualization or mental imagery… they made the choice to create their destinies and visualized their achievements before they ultimately succeeded.” ~ George Kohlrieser
7. Detach from the outcome. Whether things will happen the way you want them to happen or not, should not matter to you that much. You now know that your happiness and your well being is not dependent on how things are on the outside but rather how things are on the inside and if you take good care of yourself and if you heal your darkness, you whole life will be healed and light will always shine on you and through you.
“Detach yourself from the opinions of others; from the habit of judging or controlling others; from the past; from the need to be right and to win; from an obsession with material things. Follow your passion in life, but detach from the outcome and allow the universe to handle the details.” ~Dr. Wayne Dyer
Being happy and living a positive life is not about repeating positive affirmations all day every day and hoping they will somehow transform your life in a miraculous way. There’s more to it than that.
What I will share with you below are 7 steps that are meant to make positive thinking effective and transform your life in a really beautiful and empowering way.
1. Take ownership. Whenever we get angry or irritated because of something people say or do to us it is so because we project our own shadows and our own darkness on to them.
Next time something negative happens and next time you come in contact with somebody you don’t quite like or maybe hate, ask yourself these questions: What is it about this person, situation that is triggering me? What is it about them that I haven’t yet accepted in me? Do I have some hidden open wounds that they touched?
“Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.” ~ Carl Jung
2. Let go of your resistance. If you feel the presence of anger in your life, let it be there, allow yourself to feel its presence but don’t allow it to define you, don’t allow you to become you!
Say to yourself: There is anger, frustration, negativity, etc. in me and I allow it to be there without making it my own. There is anger in me but I am not the anger, I am the observer of this anger.
“Nonresistance is the key to the greatest power in the universe.” ~Eckhart Tolle
3. Acceptance with grace all that you face, Accept yourself for who you are and for who you are not. Accept yourself both in the presence of positivity, progress and happiness and their absence. Accept the idea that what you dislike the most in others might be something hidden deep down within yourself, in your unconscious, something you haven’t accepted in yourself.
“The difference between my darkness and your darkness is that I can look at my own badness in the face and accept its existence while you are busy covering your mirror with a white linen sheet.” ~ C. JoyBell
4. Forgive and Let Go. Forgive yourself for always believing that the enemy was outside yourself and never within you. Forgive yourself for projecting your own shadows on to the world and making it look cold, scary and frightening.
“We have met the enemy and he is us.” ~ Pogo
5. Embrace love and compassion. We have to learn to love and accept not only the good, bright side of us but also our dark side. Only by loving and accepting our own darkness without judging and oppressing it, we will help heal it.
“Darkness cannot drive out darkness: only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate: only love can do that.” ~ Martin Luther King Jr.
6. Visualization to materialize. Visualization is such a powerful tool that you can use to visualize the person you want to become, the life you want to live and the impact you want to have in the world.
“The power of imagination is incredible. Often we see athletes achieving unbelievable results and wonder how they did it. One of the tools they use is visualization or mental imagery… they made the choice to create their destinies and visualized their achievements before they ultimately succeeded.” ~ George Kohlrieser
7. Detach from the outcome. Whether things will happen the way you want them to happen or not, should not matter to you that much. You now know that your happiness and your well being is not dependent on how things are on the outside but rather how things are on the inside and if you take good care of yourself and if you heal your darkness, you whole life will be healed and light will always shine on you and through you.
“Detach yourself from the opinions of others; from the habit of judging or controlling others; from the past; from the need to be right and to win; from an obsession with material things. Follow your passion in life, but detach from the outcome and allow the universe to handle the details.” ~Dr. Wayne Dyer
Love Every Side of You
Positive
thinking alone does not work and only by facing our own darkness, by accepting
and loving our own shadows we will be able to get the positive results from
thinking all those positive thoughts.
Be patient and gentle with yourself while working on
this process and remember to take one step at a time. A journey of 1000 miles
begins with a single step. -Luminita
Be Present
Be
present in everything you do. Know that whenever fear, anxiety, unease and
discomfort arises in your body, it’s only because your mind is preoccupied with
past or future events.
If you feel your mind drifting, there’s no need to go where the mind goes. Allow your breath to bring you back into the present moment. Close your eyes, take a few deep and cleansing breaths… inhale, exhale and in no time, you will be back into the present moment. You will be here with all your might.
If you feel your mind drifting, there’s no need to go where the mind goes. Allow your breath to bring you back into the present moment. Close your eyes, take a few deep and cleansing breaths… inhale, exhale and in no time, you will be back into the present moment. You will be here with all your might.
“We
cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them.”
~ Einstein
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